Chapter 425 Derivative Argument Two: Weakness, Empathy and Empathy

Yan Liyue still remembers the look on her colleague's sister's face when she saw these words after she gave her colleague's sister Amway "Qin Jue's Home".

"This actor you like...is so special."

She felt a little unbelievable and a little unspeakably moved, "It's rare, no, it's completely rare..."

"I know." Yan Liyue firmly held the hand of her colleague's sister, "I know."

Qin Jue is different, different from all the young actors she has met so far.

When the ladies, including Yan Liyue, who couldn't help but covet "Qin" were criticized morally by internal colleagues and outside passers-by and experts, Qin Jue shared her story from a more calm, comprehensive and rational perspective. My opinion.

She understands fans' love for her and understands what makes them excited and exciting, but she also restrains and reminds them to pay attention to the occasion and distinguish the important from the important.

Such a move, to put it a bit exaggeratedly, is a real salvation for people like Yan Liyue.

After all, desire is human instinct and human nature.

It and moral conscience are at opposite ends of the scale, and people will spend their lives balancing these two points.

Take appetite for example. When appetite and desire for survival are greater than moral conscience, people who are starving to death will steal and rob.

For example, regarding sexual desire, some people can retain the bottom line of their conscience and refrain from committing crimes, while others are overwhelmed by desire and become beasts.

Qin Jue did not stand on the moral high ground to accuse or despise their careless desires. He had not experienced it personally like Yan Liyue, so it was difficult to understand how important this was.

Because, for those conscientious Qingqing who just made mistakes accidentally, if Qin Jue gets angry and scolds them or has a contemptuous and disgusting attitude towards their behavior, they will definitely be tortured by their own conscience and go crazy, constantly feeling that " "I'm so disgusted", "How could I do this", "I really deserve to be hated by Little Wolf", and then fell into self-blame and guilt, never letting go of myself.

If that's the case...what's the difference between "preserving heaven's principles and destroying human desires"?

Morality and conscience are the bottom line of human beings, but they are not a mountain that imprisons and suppresses human nature.

Respect human nature, treat things rationally, and maintain conscience.

This is what Qin Jue taught them.

Because of this, after "The Furnace" was broadcast, many Qingqing seriously discussed deep-seated issues with Qin Jue.

This actor doesn't look like an actor at all at this time, but like everyone's life mentor.

[Question] Xiaolang, during the live broadcast, didn't you say "we will talk about this issue later"? I'm here to urge qwq. I want to hear your opinion on Teacher Yue Yang's question... Is this kind of concern? Wrong?

[Answer] To put it more deeply, this is empathy and empathy. In life, we often care and help others, but many times, we don't know whether this concern is "our own wishful thinking." To be honest, it is impossible to completely avoid this point, because it is difficult for people to fully stand in the perspective of others to see the problem. Of course Teacher Yue had good intentions at that time, but he didn't think of "I can use my voice to answer questions" on the spot. And I know his intentions are good, so I won't blame him.

[Answer] Now that I have mentioned this, let me say more. "Empathy" does not refer to tolerance and sympathy, but to understanding and respect by putting yourself in others' shoes. For example, a person is suffering from a terminal illness, and his family is trying desperately to save him and keep him alive, but he himself feels that he is getting older and is almost done, so he might as well have a good time and leave this world. Well, at this time, he had an old friend who understood and respected his thoughts. They left the hospital, went sightseeing, and finally said goodbye gracefully. ...At this time, which one do you think is correct between "family" and "friends"?

[Answer]The answer is, there is no right or wrong. What comes from family is not giving up, retention, and care; what comes from friends is understanding, respect, and empathy. If the old man survived in the end, he might not be grateful to his family for their persistence; if the old man passed away after traveling with his friends, he might have had a flash of regret and reluctance before he died. Who can say for sure?

[Answer] Life is very philosophical and there is no final conclusion. But I have to say that empathy is a very important and valuable quality. People with empathy can understand others better. Just like although I can't help you actually improve your test scores, I can talk with you when you fall into depression and anxiety because of your scores, and sit on the roof and watch the stars together.

[Answer] In the same way, this was also the view of the judges and teachers during the review. The concepts of strength and weakness are relative, and everyone has a moment when they are weak. To quote Teacher Yue Yang, "When I have something that you desperately want to have but can never get, all my arrogant behavior based on this thing will be a kind of superior power to you."

[Answer] Dear friends, please don’t think that “this thing” is very large or very far away. It can be "health", "sound organs", or "my results" or "the cards I drew in the game today". understand? Sometimes your sharing and your caring may be a kind of arrogance to others and will bring trauma to them. This is what empathy is for.

[Reply·Answer] I was enlightened when I saw it at the end... It was so real. My friend and I were playing a card drawing game recently. She had a character she really wanted, but she spent a lot of money and couldn't get it. As a result, I used the official props to draw it right away. At that time, I was excited to share my European energy with her... Now that I think about it, I feel like a bad character. Fortunately, she is super nice and not angry... Looking at it from her point of view, I really feel sad for a moment, ugh.

[Reply·Answer] That’s right, so following Teacher Qin’s previous answer, we can think Qin is very fragrant and think his flaws and weaknesses make him more attractive, but we must be careful not to say this in public (including Live broadcast room) Say it! Otherwise, what will the ladies with some physical defects think when they see it? (Ah...will my words cause discomfort to you? I'm sorry, sorry QAQ)

[Reply·Answer] Hug Qingqing above, I am the deaf mute Qing who taught Teacher Qin sign language. Thank you Teacher Qin for saying so much, and thank you for your concern and understanding~ # 比心

[Reply·Answer]Oh, so emotional. Empathy is easier said than done. My mother was hospitalized unexpectedly before. When I went to stay with her, I saw a grandfather in the next hospital bed answering the phone. He was doing throat-related surgery. He was struggling to speak and his voice was very soft. At this time, he should definitely rest. But from the hands-free speakerphone, I can still hear the person on the opposite side asking "Are you okay?" and "How are you recovering?"...just...this kind of concern will actually cause trouble to people, ugh.

[Reply·Answer]Yes, think more about others when you care about them. I have had this experience too. One time my dad said he would take me out to play if I passed the exam. Later, when I got first in the class, he forgot about it because of work... and then he probably wanted to make up for it. , bought me new clothes, but what I care about is not a reward at all, just an apology from him...

"Let me digress a little bit. I am the new Qingqing who joined "The Crucible"." Someone posted in the topic area and said, "I feel very emotional after watching it these past few days. I just saw a brand new interactive system between celebrities and fans... Nowadays, we often use 'idol' to refer to singing and dancing stars, young talents, etc., but what does the word 'idol' originally mean? Isn't it just 'role model'?"

"I hereby announce that Qin Jue is my idol, the most traditional and important kind, an idol who can serve as a role model for learning and a benchmark in life.

“As proof, I hope I can become a better version of myself.

"I have just finished the college entrance examination. As a student, I don't have much money to donate after watching "The Crucible", so I want to be a volunteer this summer to help the disabled. Well, although it is insignificant, the little I can help is a big deal!

"Thank you, Xiaolang, thank you all!"

[Quick, quack, quack! ! 】

[Raise your hand! Are there any groups? I want to go too! 】

[It’s the new volunteer minister! Great! I am also a volunteer hahahaha]

[Please tell me how to sign up. I want to go too! 】

【Already learning sign language——】

On the bus to the countryside carrying the entire crew, Qin Jue looked at the replies on the screen, took a breath and closed his phone.

There is always a moment in life when people feel that... "living" is full of value and meaning.

It's great that she's reborn.

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